Comments on: How to fall in (or out of) love with your job…or your Significant Other http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/ Read about Sales Tips & Strategies, influenced by The Southwestern Company Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:20:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Lee McCroskey http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-7183 Lee McCroskey Mon, 15 Mar 2010 15:54:33 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-7183 Christine! Thanks. Yes, focus is everything. What you choose to think about determines how you feel and definitely affects your actions. Christine! Thanks. Yes, focus is everything. What you choose to think about determines how you feel and definitely affects your actions.

]]> By: Christine Martin http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-7177 Christine Martin Mon, 15 Mar 2010 13:42:21 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-7177 Lee this is such a great concept to keep in mind. I think with anything in life we always like new things because they are shiny and we enjoy learning more about it/them. Soon we no longer want something because it is old, it is annoying, it doesn't fit right, or with SW - it is hard, you don't always get the results you want, you have to listen to others puke, you don't like having to work so hard. But I think the thing to keep in mind is as you develop in anything, new shiny things continuously come in different forms. In my three summers of SW I learned that if I focus my attention on all of the things that I first started selling books because of: Sizzler, freddies, traveling, new friends as well as leadership and everything I am continually getting - helping people grow, helping people find themselves, helping families with their education, making people smile; these things become, and continue to be, things to look forward to perfecting and striving to get more of. Lee this is such a great concept to keep in mind. I think with anything in life we always like new things because they are shiny and we enjoy learning more about it/them. Soon we no longer want something because it is old, it is annoying, it doesn’t fit right, or with SW – it is hard, you don’t always get the results you want, you have to listen to others puke, you don’t like having to work so hard. But I think the thing to keep in mind is as you develop in anything, new shiny things continuously come in different forms. In my three summers of SW I learned that if I focus my attention on all of the things that I first started selling books because of: Sizzler, freddies, traveling, new friends as well as leadership and everything I am continually getting – helping people grow, helping people find themselves, helping families with their education, making people smile; these things become, and continue to be, things to look forward to perfecting and striving to get more of.

]]> By: Grayson Jones http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-6170 Grayson Jones Tue, 23 Feb 2010 03:55:58 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-6170 "What you think about you bring about" soooo true! I like the analogy, great work! “What you think about you bring about” soooo true! I like the analogy, great work!

]]> By: Lee McCroskey http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5835 Lee McCroskey Mon, 15 Feb 2010 18:33:47 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5835 I'm glad to help--was it on the personal or professional side? Perhaps I should start a Mars/Venus blog... I’m glad to help–was it on the personal or professional side? Perhaps I should start a Mars/Venus blog…

]]> By: Kristi Jensen http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5831 Kristi Jensen Mon, 15 Feb 2010 13:57:26 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5831 Lee I totally needed this thank you! Lee I totally needed this thank you!

]]> By: Bobby Huang http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5645 Bobby Huang Fri, 12 Feb 2010 23:48:53 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5645 Ah, it definitely takes effort to notice the positive aspects of things when times are done. This insight helps me with focusing on the positive things in my business and positive things in my relationship. Thanks Lee! Ah, it definitely takes effort to notice the positive aspects of things when times are done.

This insight helps me with focusing on the positive things in my business and positive things in my relationship.

Thanks Lee!

]]> By: Lee McCroskey http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5265 Lee McCroskey Sun, 31 Jan 2010 00:28:05 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5265 Logan--everyone has a different way to deal with stress; it sounds like you've got a mental system that works for you. Thanks for sharing this stuff! Logan–everyone has a different way to deal with stress; it sounds like you’ve got a mental system that works for you. Thanks for sharing this stuff!

]]> By: Lee McCroskey http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5260 Lee McCroskey Sat, 30 Jan 2010 02:06:50 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5260 Thanks Nanu! Kind words. Thanks Nanu! Kind words.

]]> By: Logan Gaither http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5256 Logan Gaither Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:52:07 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5256 here's a different possibility: Instead of ignoring the things you don't like in your SO (sales opportunity, right?), or try to pretend they don't bother you, why not accept them for what they are, and that you chose them? There are certainly things about my job that are not my favorite, but denying their existence doesn't solve anything. Serenity now, insanity later, to pull from Seinfeld. When I acknowledge that certain things (ie, prospecting, cold calling, the way she feels about my parents...) that may not be pleasant are a natural part of the situation, and I accept them as part of my deal, a deal I have freely chosen, I can start to become at one with the unpleasantness and let it be. When I'm off my game, and I start to put happy-face stickers over things that don't really make me happy, I start to get overwhelmed and burned out. Also, in a relationship, putting happy faces on disagreements prevents them from getting resolved; seems like the route of a passive-aggressive personality. Somehow, "it's gonna be a great day! i feel happy healthy and terrific!" sounds like "I hate my life and want to die." Bookpeople, anyone remember week 11, if your schedule hasn't been exactly ironclad? When I'm at peace, I sometimes start to feel angry because I am doing things I don't like doing, I acknowledge that I don't like them and do them anyways. And then I move on. here’s a different possibility:

Instead of ignoring the things you don’t like in your SO (sales opportunity, right?), or try to pretend they don’t bother you, why not accept them for what they are, and that you chose them?

There are certainly things about my job that are not my favorite, but denying their existence doesn’t solve anything. Serenity now, insanity later, to pull from Seinfeld. When I acknowledge that certain things (ie, prospecting, cold calling, the way she feels about my parents…) that may not be pleasant are a natural part of the situation, and I accept them as part of my deal, a deal I have freely chosen, I can start to become at one with the unpleasantness and let it be.

When I’m off my game, and I start to put happy-face stickers over things that don’t really make me happy, I start to get overwhelmed and burned out. Also, in a relationship, putting happy faces on disagreements prevents them from getting resolved; seems like the route of a passive-aggressive personality. Somehow, “it’s gonna be a great day! i feel happy healthy and terrific!” sounds like “I hate my life and want to die.” Bookpeople, anyone remember week 11, if your schedule hasn’t been exactly ironclad?

When I’m at peace, I sometimes start to feel angry because I am doing things I don’t like doing, I acknowledge that I don’t like them and do them anyways. And then I move on.

]]> By: Earl http://www.swsalestalk.com/southwestern_company/how-to-fall-in-or-out-of-love-with-your-job-or-your-significant-other/comment-page-1/#comment-5255 Earl Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:24:48 +0000 http://www.swsalestalk.com/?p=830#comment-5255 Great words of advice Lee for both career and marriage. Often times it's our work life that can get in the way of our relationships with other people. We have to make sure that we devote time to continually build our relationships and go as far as scheduling the time in. As crazy as it might sound to have to schedule time with your significant other, if we don't we can easily fall into the trap you talk about, especially for those who have careers that take them away from home a lot. Great words of advice Lee for both career and marriage. Often times it’s our work life that can get in the way of our relationships with other people. We have to make sure that we devote time to continually build our relationships and go as far as scheduling the time in. As crazy as it might sound to have to schedule time with your significant other, if we don’t we can easily fall into the trap you talk about, especially for those who have careers that take them away from home a lot.

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